Nancy Rhine, MS, LMFT, CPG

Specialist in Issues of Midlife & Older Adults

Support Groups for Older Adults

There are many wonderful peer support groups for adults in Marin County. Some are targeted towards particular topics, while others are open to any and all of the concerns and interests of older people.

One of the ones I am familiar with and heartily recommend is called “Elders’ Circle”. It is a free, weekly drop-in support group for folks 60 years old and up. The group meets at Whistlestop Senior Center in San Rafael. Elder Circle is facilitated by two wonderful older men Herman Claussen and Steve Olian, both of whom are trained group facilitators with many years of group leadership experience. Both men and women participate in Elders Circle and all newcomers are welcome to talk about any issues at all and to find support and friendship. Elders Circle meets Wednesdays from 10-11:30AM. You can call Whistlestop at 415- 456-9062 for more information.

Another wonderful support group for older folks in Marin is called AgeSong. AgeSong is designed to be a place where men and women 65 and older can meet and discuss “concerns and desires, enlivening the search for deeper joy and satisfaction in our later years.” Topics for discussion include “How Did I Get to Be This Old?”, “Creating a New Old Age”, and “The Courage to Find New Possibilities in the Midst of Loss”. AgeSong meets for 8 weekly sessions, the cost is $80 for sessions, and scholarships are available. For information or to register, you can call AgeSong 415-491-5700, ext. 5726.

Another excellent resource in the North Bay is Senior Spectrum which offers opportunities for LGBT older adult men and women to come together for socializing, support, and community. Senior Spectrum also provides resources and referral as well as education and advocacy. For more information, you can contact Cristin Brew at (415) 472-1945 x203 or email cbrew@SpectrumLGBTCenter.org.

“20 Lies Told By Nursing Homes”

Eric Carlson is Directing Attorney for the National Senior Citizens Law Center (NSCLC). He has specialized in long-term care since 1990 and is one of the country’s leading consumer experts on skilled nursing and assisted living facilities.

Mr. Carlson has written many articles on issues related to long term care and advocacy. I came across this one recently and think it is very helpful for consumers. Note: It has been rewritten and published recently as “20 Common Nursing Home Problems and How to Resolve Them” for purchase from this page at the NSCLC .

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Part of the 20 Lies article can be read at no cost in a Powerpoint format.

The basics of the 20 Lies articles are listed below. See Mr. Carlson’s complete article for the details.

1. MediCal does not pay for the services you want.

2. The nursing staff will determine the care that your receive.

3. We don’t have enough staff. You must wake up every mroning at six.

4. We don’t have enough staff. You should hire a private-duty aide.

5. If we don’t tie your father into his chair, he may fall or wander away.

6. Your mother needs more medication to make her more manageable.

7. We must insert a feeding tube; your father is eating too slowly.

8. Your children can only visit you during visiting hours.

9. We can’t admit your mom unless you become “Responsible Party”.

10. Please sign this arbitration agreement; it’s no big deal.

11. Because of your limited needs, you can’t get Medicare reimbursement.

12. We must discontinue therapy because you aren’t making progress.

13. We can’t give therapy. Medicare has expired and Medi-Cal doesn’t cover it.

14. You aren’t eligible for Medicare, so you must leave the Medicare bed.

15. We don’t have an available Medi-Cal bed for you.

16. We don’t have to readmit you from the hospital; your bed-hold has expired.

17. You must pay any amount set by the facility for extra charges.

18. We have no available space for resident or family meetings.

19. You must leave because you are a difficult resident.

20. You must leave because you are refusing treatment.

Ageism and Mental Health Funding

Something I have run into in our society is a seemingly widespread belief that mental health services are primarily for younger people and not older individuals. I have heard people say that older people have had their chances and that mental dianabolos 10 health funding should go to young people where it can make a bigger difference. While I love young people, and think that kids need and deserve a lot of support, I also am saddened to think that there is a bias towards older people not getting mental health help.

This attitude seems to reflect our youth-oriented culture which emphasizes staying young in order to be important. Where is the care and compassion and respect due to our elders? The aging journey very often brings up old fears, old triggers of insecurity, old pains, old losses even from childhood. Why should older individuals – who have given to their communities all of their lives – not  benefit from compassionate support as they continue their life journeys? Where is our culture’s realization that we need to hear the stories our older folks can tell us in order to gain from their wisdom and experience?

It seems to me as I grow older that I see our society having a shorter and shorter collective memory. After one year is over, we tend to go on and focus on immediate problems and immediate gains, forgetting the lessons we might have learned from what happened earlier.

While our country’s economy has been severely impacted in recent years, it has been enormously helpful to me to listen to elders’ tips about how they got through the trying years of the Great Depression and WWII. As Joan Erikson explained once, “wisdom” is not necessarily about knowing “why” but about knowing “how”.

I hope that a fair portion of mental health funding allocated by government at different levels will go to mental health services for older people. It  behooves us to take care of our elders, to listen to their stories and to afford them the respect they deserve. They are survivors. We need them. We can learn things from them!

Patient Advocacy for Older Adults

Patient Advocacy for Older Adults

 

One lesson I learned years ago from my mother (a retired nurse) and have continued to see the importance of to this day is how critical it is for older adult patients to bring a family member, friend or companion with them when they visit their doctors.

 

It is important for everyone to do this when possible but especially vital for older people who can use the help of someone they trust to remind them of their questions for the doctor and to write down what the doctor’s answers are.

 

Prescribed medications tend to increase as we age and many medications have side effects which are compounded by the combinations, potential contraindications, various times they need to be taken, etc. All of this information can be both confusing to remember and necessary to review on a regular basis.

 
Doctors can tend to change dosages and prescriptions and sometimes generic medications are suddenly substituted rather than brand ones when the generic versions become available. It is important for patients to log the effects of any of these medication changes.

 

A written log/chart can be brought to the doctor with them. The patient advocate can remember to bring the chart, remember questions, and write down explanations. If the patient is feeling poorly, it is especially important to be accompanied. Patients who are symptomatic at the time of the visit can find even more challenge to communicate since they are dealing directly with their illnesses and associated pain, weakness, side effects of treating medications, etc.

 

My experience and that of many others is that, more often than not, doctors will pay better attention to you if you are accompanied by a friendly patient advocate.

Senior Peer Counseling in Marin

Volunteering is often talked about in terms of benefits for society and for the volunteers themselves. Older adults who reach out to share their wisdom, kindness and service in their communities generally experience higher self-esteem, less depression, an increase in friends and less overall decline in health. One of our wonderful volunteer opportunities in Marin is the Senior Peer Counseling (SPC) program, managed for 20 years by Community Mental Health.

Peer counselors receive 8 weeks of initial training in issues facing older adults. These include aging, medical problems, isolation and family conflicts. Then, after being taught basic counseling skills and introduced to Marin’s extensive range of services for seniors, they are matched with one or more homebound older adults in need of counseling. Services are offered in English and Spanish. SPC’s next training will be held in April, 2010 in San Rafael.

SPC volunteers come from all walks of life: they are retired actors, directors, nurses, mental health professionals, professors, and computer entrepreneurs. Nan Heflin MFT, one of the coordinators of SPC, says, “Our volunteers are from diverse backgrounds, but they all have in common an interest in their own aging process and personal growth, and a belief that one can change at any age… Over and over I hear from the volunteers that they get as much from being counselors as the clients get from them.”

Peter Schmid of Greenbrae and Cynthia Wood of Bolinas are among the program’s 35 volunteer counselors. “Counseling is a chance to do something for humanity,” says Schmid, age 79, who has been a volunteer for 15 years. Adds Wood, age 77: “People are really appreciative.”

For more information on how to volunteer with Senior Peer Counseling and the next training, call 415-499-6802.

Dehydration Can Cause Dizziness

It is my experience and research backs this up that older people are often dehydrated. A region in the brain called the mid cingulate cortex predicts how much water a person needs, but this region malfunctions in older people. So, in essence, our aging brains underestimate how much water we need to drink in order to steroid-usa rehydrate. Our sense of thirst decreases.

One of the side effects of dehydration can be dizziness or lightheadedness. If an older person experiences dizziness, particularly in the morning, he should consult with his MD of course. If he does not have ear problems which can cause dizziness, and if his medications are not the problem, and no other obvious medical problem seems to be the cause, it is a very simple step to see if dehydration might be the root of the problem.

The Mayo Clinic advises this routine: Put a large glass of water (10-12 oz) on your nightstand. In the morning *before getting out of bed*, sit up and drink the entire glass of water. Wait about 15 minutes before getting up. Try this several mornings and see if your dizziness lessens. I have seen this help numerous people. It’s free, it’s non-invasive, good for us and easy to try!

It may not help but if it does, what a relief for dizziness sufferers!

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From Mayo Clinic website article on dehydration:

Older adults. As you age, you become more susceptible to dehydration for several reasons: Your body’s ability to conserve water is reduced, your thirst sense becomes less acute and you’re less able to respond to changes in temperature. What’s more, older adults, especially people in nursing homes or living alone, tend to eat less than younger people do and sometimes may forget to eat or drink altogether. Disability or neglect also may prevent them from being well nourished. These problems are compounded by chronic illnesses such as diabetes, by hormonal changes associated with menopause and by the use of certain medications.

What Do Seniors Do Online

WHAT DO SENIORS DO ONLINE? VISIT FACEBOOK AND YOUTUBE, OF COURSE. Ben Parr. Mashable, the Social Media Guide.

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We’ve known for a while that Facebook users are getting a lot older, but now new data released by Nielsen reveals that the number of seniors (65 and older) using the Web has increased by 6 million in the last five years. Not only that, but nearly half of online seniors visited Facebook or YouTube last month, making them their third and fourth most visited online destinations.

The research confirmed a trend that we’ve seen in recent years: That more seniors are becoming active on the Web. In November of 2004, there were 11.3 million active seniors online. In November 2009, that number jumped by 55 percent to 17.5 million. In addition, they spend more time on the Web, totaling an average of 58 hours a month in front of the browser.

While those numbers didn’t surprise us, we were interested in data that Nielsen collected on their browsing habits. Take a look at these two tables. The first reveals the most common activities among active online seniors. The second shows the top ten Web sites and online destinations that this demographic visited last month:

A majority of online seniors check their e-mail, print maps, play around with photos and check the weather. All of these tasks seem utility-based, but then again, we expect that these numbers would be similar in almost any other demographic. Come on — who here hasn’t checked their e-mail, mapped something out or paid their bills online in the last 30 days?

The more interesting data comes from the top 10 online destinations table. While Google Search was an obvious winner, Windows Media Player is a bit of a surprise until you realize just how many Web sites embed the thing. However, the rise of Facebook to number three on this list, when a year ago it was the number 45 most visited Web site by seniors, is a huge sign of just how mainstream social networking has become. YouTube at number four is another confirmation of this trend.

This is just what happens when new technologies become more accessible and more mainstream. Let us know what you think of these trends in the comments.

Fixing US Health Care by Ken Dychtwald

How do we make sure that our older citizens are taken care of vis a vis health care and health care reform? Ken Dychtwald has some ideas in this thoughtful article. -NR

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The Biggest Problem With U.S. Health Care—And How To Fix It!
by Ken Dychtwald

While most of the current healthcare debate has focused on how to cover the tens of millions of uninsured Americans and who should pay (granted, these are critically important issues), after 35 years working at the intersection of gerontology and healthcare, I’m convinced that we have the WRONG healthcare system for our aging nation. If your train is headed in the wrong direction, it doesn’t help to give everyone a seat. And, since the U.S. currently spends nearly twice as much per capita on healthcare as all the other modernized nations, while our national life expectancy ranks a humiliating 42nd worldwide, it’s not that we throw too little money at the problem, but that we may not be spending it in the wisest ways.

The Age Wave is Coming

Until recently, most people died relatively young of infectious diseases, accidents, or in childbirth. When the first US census was taken in 1790, half the population was under the age of 16 and less than 2 percent of the 4 million Americans were 65 and older. As a result, society rarely concerned itself about the needs of its aging citizens. The elderly were too few to matter.

However, during the past century, advances in medical diagnostics, pharmaceuticals, surgical techniques, and nutrition have eliminated many of the problems that once caused most people to die young. And so, the irony is that our medical successes have produced tens of millions of long-lived men and women who now struggle for decades with debilitating chronic illnesses such as heart disease, cancer, arthritis, osteoporosis, COPD and Alzheimer’s—that our system is absolutely NOT prepared to handle—causing immeasurable suffering and trillions of misspent tax dollars.

With the average life expectancy having vaulted to 78 (and rising), the 13 percent of our population over 65 now accounts for: 44 percent of hospital care, 38 percent of all emergency medical services responses, 35 percent of all prescriptions, 26 percent of all physician office visits and 90 percent of all nursing home use. And, the first of the 78 million boomers will become eligible for Medicare in only 18 months!

The Four-Part Solution

1: Multiply the amount of scientific research needed to delay or eliminate the diseases of aging.

In May 1961, President John F. Kennedy looked to the sky and stated, “I believe this nation should commit itself, before this decade is out, to landing a man on the moon and returning him safely to earth.” In response, we mobilized all of our science and energy to realize that dream a short eight years later.

Similarly, in order to avert the costly chronic disease pandemics looming in our future, we must bring about a commitment of sufficient intelligence, creativity and resources to replace unhealthy aging with healthy aging.

The dollars that have been committed to the life sciences to battle the diseases of aging, however, are woefully inadequate to get the job done. For each tax dollar we currently spend on treating disease, only about one cent goes to fund the scientific research that could delay or prevent some of these dread pandemics in the first place. For example, it is estimated that if we could postpone the onset of Alzheimer’s disease by five years, half of all the nursing-home beds in America would empty.

2: Make disease prevention and self-care a national priority.

Let’s be honest . . . we’ve become a nation of gluttons. We eat too much, exercise too little and then get angry at the healthcare system when we’re sick. This lack of proper prevention, self-care and disease management winds up being a key factor in many of our eventual struggles with illness. This is even true among the elderly. For example, 9 percent of the 65-plus population remain chronic smokers, a third don’t exercise regularly, 40 percent are overweight and 23 percent are considered obese.

According to the Centers for Disease Control, more than 50 percent of our potential for lifelong health is determined by our personal behaviors. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can reduce heart disease, hypertension, non-insulin-dependent diabetes mellitus, colon cancer, and osteoporotic fractures—most of the most common diseases of aging.

Our healthcare system should be focused on helping and motivating us all to compress the various diseases of old age into the shortest possible time at the very end of life—and thereby raise the odds of living long and well (which would please both Mr. Spock and Dr. Spock). (I wonder why Michael Moore neglected to mention self-care in his otherwise provocative documentary Sicko? Was it because it’s far easier to “blame the system” than it is to take responsibility for one’s own role in the problem?)

3: Replace medical incompetence with aging-ready healthcare professionals.

When the leading edge of the baby boom arrived in the mid-1940s, America and its institutions were totally unprepared. Waiting lists and long lines developed at hospitals across the country, apartments and homes didn’t have enough bedrooms for boomer kids and there was a shortage of baby food and diapers.

With the coming age wave, we should be preparing armies of “aging-ready” healthcare professionals. We aren’t. Less than 1 percent of all the physicians in America have been trained and certified as geriatricians. However well-intentioned they may be, most primary-care physicians have received little or no continuing education in geriatrics. The same holds true in nursing, allied health, and pharmacology.

Every medical school in the United Kingdom has a department of geriatrics. But with 130 medical schools, there are, amazingly, only 13 such departments in the entire United States. Because of limited geriatric competency, every week our physicians make millions of costly mistakes: misdiagnoses, inappropriate surgeries and punishing complications due to faulty medication management (polypharmacy).

If AARP, the AMA, the Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services and all health insurers required physicians, nurses, and other health professionals to attain basic geriatric competencies in order to be eligible for reimbursement, mistakes and do-overs would shrink, and we’d have better-cared-for older adults at a far lower cost.

4: Palliative care: death with dignity.

A century ago, 75 to 80 percent of all deaths took place at home with family and friends on hand. Roughly the same percentage of all deaths now occur in institutions—hospitals, extended care facilities, and nursing homes.

In fact, Medicare spends approximately 28 percent of its total budget on patients in their last year of life—sometimes when the attempt to prolong life merely means an expensive, inhumane, high-tech death. And something that no one seems willing to talk about is the fact that the extension of dying in this fashion all too often becomes a capitalist feast as some medical companies see their profits grow, the longer the dying process is extended.

We’d be wise to shift the emphasis for the dying patient to “palliative care” or hospice care—which focuses on the relief of symptoms, controlling pain, and the provision of emotional and spiritual support for the patient and their family. Such treatment requires relatively little apparatus and technology, is much less costly than the procedures currently in place in most hospitals and provides for a far more humane and dignified last stage of life.

The Challenge Ahead

On January 1, 2011, the first baby boomer will turn 65. Whether we grow old sick, frail, and dependent—or vital, active, and productive—will depend on our ability to dramatically alter the orientation, strategies, skills, and financial incentives of our current healthcare system. And so, while we’re focusing now on the coverage and financing of our damaged healthcare system, we should also focus on re-visioning healthcare’s purpose—to create long-lived, productive and healthy men and women.

Ken Dycthwald, PhD, is a psychologist, gerontologist, and public speaker. The author of 15 books, Dr. Dychtwald is President and CEO of Age Wave, San Francisco, Calif.

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In 2010, my goal here is to offer you snippets of information about various aspects of aging in our culture today. Things I have learned in my years of working as a counselor and case manager with older adults.

I will write about topics such as physical health, exercise, nutrition, emotional health, relationships, depression, anxiety, legacy, stories, reminiscence therapy, spirituality, grief and loss, medicine, dehydration, socialization, activities, loneliness, isolation, transcendance, wisdom, and more.

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